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Being Woman. Her side of Marriage!


radha and Ma

Even though majority girls start thinking about marriage, prince charming and other pink things associated with it at the age of five, marriage is not easy! It is more than a letter you write to your future husband.

Even though the wedding card says your name, it is more than you. It is more than one day.

This is a story of a woman who was luck to marry her prince charming and also the one who just couldn’t gather enough courage to marry her man of dreams. Here is the ultimate truth that every woman, lives every day.

“Maaa..” shreaked the house when Radha yelled at the top of her voice, Ma must have skipped a heart beat hearing her daughter shout aloud. This was not the first time she had heard this.

Right from a lizard to a serial rapist all thoughts crossed her mind in fraction of a second. She rushed to here as if she was practicing for the Olympic run. The words ‘towel please’ made here angry and relieved at the same time. She handed it and walked away swearing about what would she do at her husband’s place in this situation!

Madly in love with the concept of marriage, Radha answered, “He will happily hand me the towel!”  Little did she know, about HIM. She had painted him in her colors and she was all ready to fall in love. And she did. He was here change and he was her only constant in any change!

Radha was well versed with what is a marriage. She had been planning this day for practically majority of her life. And her happiness grew in leaps and bounds as the day approached from 8 months to 6 months to 3 months. She was excited to travel together, eat together and go to bed together.

But as the date came close she had a new definition of marriage. The one which involved making someone the epicenter of your world, the one which is made her listen to instructions carefully, the one which her mother described in one word, ‘sacrifice.’

Not the sacrifice that sucks your own happiness but the one which adds to it. How can making the pizza for him be tiresome for me if it puts a smile on his face and belly? How can helping his mom be a responsibility if she is who he cares about? How is spending a penny more for his sisters birthday making me poor, if I am gaining a new best friend?

“What is it that I am sacrificing Ma? Am I doing marriage correct?” “Radha, you are sacrificing your childhood. Do you remember, the vanilla pudding I used to make just the way you liked it. And do you remember, it was the same day when your dad use to come back from an official tour?” Radha in anxious tone, “yeah Ma”, well you are now me; Ma said, “Marriage is  not just making everyone happy. Marriage is not responsibility or a burden, it is being your mother. And how difficult is it to be someone whom you know so well?”



The Day He Came Home


loveLike every other Indian girl, I grew up dreaming about my prince charming since a very young age. I somehow got possessive about him so much that I did not realize when I switched on the bollywood mode. But today was an eye opener…
“In relationship” is a status that is not the complete version of taken and leaves a small window of availability. This window gets grilled by commitment and closes on marriage. And I want to close the window. My intentions, views or my future plans were crystal clear. I had found the man of my dreams and finished judging him to be the right one for me. All I needed was to get married.
But one day, my dream changed. Continuous peer pressure reached the threshold of my dream and all I wanted to do was run away from marriages, guys and anything had even the slightest tinkle of a wedding ring!!
Let me make you understand my scene, I had found my man, I knew I want to end up with him, but neither he nor me were ready to make us exclusive…or take our parents into confidence. Reasons were varied, right from dark pasts to stupid reasons like being scared of marriage. When we both were getting comfortable in our virtual commitment cloud, my siblings made the courage to prick it and make my life easier by making this virtual commitment a reality. They told my parents about us. They made us exclusive.
Panicked, I rushed to the phone and told him, “my father wants to meet you” and like the lightning strikes the earth, his “yes” struck me hard and got me back to my senses. It cost me my half days salary to gather myself and face my parents. But I was the mother of this problem and he could have very easily dust his hands of the uncalled responsibility…but he didn’t.
Nightmare is the right word for the situation when a guy meets his girls’ father to officially ask permission to take her away! And today was the day for my guy to face this nightmare. Being judged, being asked absolutely stupid questions, he went through it very patiently wearing a smile throughout. I couldn’t stop wondering, why does he love me so much?
Well, I think I’ll spend the rest of my life finding out the answer and may not even get it. But truly, I am feeling light, everyone knows, and though the getting married part is still unclear, he stood by me when I needed him the most. And that is more than enough reason for me to stand by him whenever he needs me.
This is a genuine dedication to my man…you are my strength. I love you!