Consider this job description:
You have a primary purpose of raising physically, emotionally, and morally healthy individuals. You must be able to nurture the individual (under any circumstances) with basic necessities of food, clothing, and shelter (education, toys, AC, video games, bikes, cars etc.)
Desired skill set:
- Prior experience or educational degree is not required
- Willingness to work 24/7 for lifelong tenure
- Monetary compensation may or may not be given only after a decade or two
- Must be able to entertain anytime anywhere
- Must be physically strong to carry around increasing weight
- Must be able to handle one or more individuals at a time
The job title is MOM.
I took up the job this year.
Already feels like a decade, but I remember feeling super prego and in a limbo state between get this baby out of me and not a mom yet phase. This time last year, my bun was happily hanging out in the oven, and the mom job was just like the flashy, attractive commercial that pulls the exact cords of your heart and makes you fall for the bluff.
Although I’m unaware of the reason why Mother’s day is celebrated, I have cutely celebrated my mothers (my mom and my mother-in-law) every year. But this year, after enjoying millions of those quintessential milestones (may sound ordinary to anyone else) such as speaking in song language, drooly kisses, where is my mom cry outs, diaper blowouts, sleepy snuggles, story-telling- feeding sessions; I actually feel like a mother.
So I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t excited for my first mother’s day.
At the same time, I’ve also realised that mothers give up a lot for this job: the former glory of their breasts, waistlines, sleep, years of peaceful time (it has been only months in my case), and in some cases careers. It happens so that activities such as: wearing heels, sitting down, chewing your food, wearing hoop earrings, wearing nail polish etc. seem like luxuries. Truly.
But the best part of being a mother is that it introduces you to a version 2.0 of yourself. You don’t just give birth to a human being; you unleash the super hero within yourself. Of course super powers tag along. 🙂
Take for example, the pre mom version of me would only cook dinner (wholesome meal, end-to-end), do the kitchen and go to sleep in an hour. But the mom version of me can cook dinner (for 6-8 people), clean, bathe my baby, sterilise her stuff, medicate, feed and make her sleep in an hour. Super power number one: Being resourceful.
Similarly, the ‘older me’ would pack the exact amount of clothes required for travelling. But the ‘mom me’ packs clothes, medicines, diapers, food stock (that would feed minimum 3 kids), toys, and all the baby gear, just in case of disaster. Super power number two: Being futuristic.
How many of you have travelled in a plane with a crying baby on board? Or, cursed the parents of the crying baby in a cinema hall? Or judged the lady who got her infant to the market on a sunny day? Well, the non-mom-me has done it loud and clear, but the mom-me tries to understand the reason why a baby is crying (hunger, pain, colic) and I, now (after having a child) completely understand the need to watch a movie despite having a baby (the care-taker must have ditched at the last moment) or the emergency for which one had to come out in the sun with her infant. Super power number three: Being empathetic. (Although women in general and dog owners already have this one)
There have been million instances in the last few months where I have calmly waited for my baby to fall asleep. There were times where I have waited days for her to empty her bowels. This wait introduced me to my superpower number four: Being patient.
As a new mom I think, that’s what the white lines on my tummy indicate, the birth of a superhero – a mom. And that’s what Mother’s day should be about. Anticipating and celebrating the perks of being a mother. After all you’re the Ras Al Ghul for your baby!
These superpowers not only help you ace your mom game but can also hone your career. In my next post I’ll cover how to kill it professionally with these super powers.
Happy Mother’s day!